Thy desire shall be to thy Husband

Why is sexuality, or I must say abuse of sexuality, such an important and repeating subject in the Bible? Sexuality is a symbol, that has a deeper spiritual meaning. YHWH wanted to make this clear to us from the beginning; in the Old Testament He compares His people repeatedly with a harlot, and He accuses them of harlotry. That is the subject of the book of Hosea. Sexuality refers in the Bible to our relationship with Him!

Sexuality is connected with desire. And our desire must be to the right person. To the person, husband or wife, we belong to. The spiritual reference is of course that we belong to Him. Our desire must be to Him, to our Husband.

Genesis 3:16: “thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”

We can also read: “thy desire shall be to thy Husband, and He shall rule over thee”.

The literal text speaks about the first Adam, the deeper spiritual reference is to the second Adam (1 Corinthians 15).

Paul explains this mystery (deeper, spiritual meaning) in Epesians 5:22-32:

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”

This is the symbol (mystery) of the physical, earthly marriage: being one flesh (that refers to sexuality as well) is about our becoming one with Him. Our spiritual marriage: our marriage with the Lamb… And the symbol of sexuality is closely connected with it. 

When we belong to Him, our desire must be to Him. And desire is in our mind and in our heart. When our mind and heart are not focused on Him, we desire someone or something else. And that is (spiritual) harlotry and adultery. What is the focus of our mind and heart? What do we point our mind and heart to? Is that His truth? If not, it are lies and delusions of man we should break with.

In the Bible, harlotry and idolatry often go hand in hand. We read in Numbers 25:1-2:

“And Israel abode in Shittim, and the people began to commit whoredom with the daughters of Moab. And they called the people unto the sacrifices of their gods: and the people did eat, and bowed down to their gods.”

And we know also the history of Solomon. Solomon liked stranged women, women YHWH said to keep at a distance. Why? Because YHWH knew these women would seduce them to idolatry. But Solomon loved many strange women. And the result was that they turned his heart away, after their gods.

“But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites; Of the nations concerning which the LORD said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love.


For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.”
1 Kings 11:1-2,4

As we saw above, we commit spiritual harlotry if we do not focus our mind and heart on Him, on His truth. And when we do not focus on His truth, we focus on lies and delusions. Harlotry and idolatry refer to the same. Idolatry is in our mind and heart. The text of 1 Kings 11 confirms this: Solomon’s heart turned away after other gods. Idolatry is when we focus our mind and heart not on YHWH, but on other gods. And other gods is everyting in our mind and heart that is not focused on His truth. And what is not His truth, are lies and delusions. That is not by definition our entire heart. Our heart can contain both His truth and lies and delusions. And that makes our heart, like Solomon’s heart, ‘not perfect with YHWH’ (1 Kings 11:4).

“How long halt ye between two opinions? if the LORD be God, follow him: but if Baal (or whatever god (lies and delusions) in your mind and heart), then follow him” 1 Kings 18:21